It got me thinking, do I stereotype my tiny granddaughter? She's nearly two so she's not made up her mind fully to what she likes yet,she plays with what she is given,or does she?
|Cleaning doors in a tutu.|
I am a girlie girl who is so delighted to be able to buy frilly tutus (didn't have them in my day, you had to go to ballet) and all things pink, but am I doing the right thing for my tiny girl's future? The tutu dress on the right is about the third one I've bought for her, it's for her birthday party and she was trying it on when she decided to clean doors. She's usually in trousers.
I look after my friend's son who twitter and my blog know as toddler boy, he's a year older than tiny girl being nearly three. He doesn't like pink, he says it's for girls, he's a dinosaur boy. We have lots of dinosaurs and dragons and cars. We also have dolls, a pink buggy, a pink motor home tent, a kitchen etc..
|We made a volcano for the dinosaurs|
|Hiding, tea party, and pink toys.|
I have at times seen toddler boy playing with the buggy and the dolls but probably only to undress them (boys!). On the other hand tiny girl just loves dinosaurs and cars, she plays on her own with them for far longer than she'll play with dolls. They both love shape sorters, books, sand, playdough, all very unisex, so maybe I'm not doing as bad as I thought I was.
How did he know? Tiny girl was only saying a few words then and she has never shown a preference to pink.
Toddler boy must have received that information from somewhere. How does he know the difference between girl's toys and boy's toys? Is it in his DNA ?
I asked him how he knew and maybe we could get her a car or a dinosaur, but he didn't quite have the vocabulary to explain so he just said that she likes pink. I asked him if he wanted something from this pink aisle and he laughed and said I was a silly Nana Anne.
|Baking, painting and play dough.|
|photo tweeted by @SeanEGray|
There are too many pink toys around,what's wrong with the primary colours for girl's too, or a nice bright orange, I'm sure girls would still find the toys attractive and it would make them more unisex.
Tiny girl's favourite things to play with at the moment are stones. She loves going for a walk and collecting them, bringing them back home and putting them in various dishes around the house, toddler boy is right there with her, he's a stone collector too.
I've came to the conclusion that I'm not a bad gran or Nana Anne, I am giving them a rounded experience,we paint, glue, make things, play with sand, playdough,water, read books, all of which are not stereotyping either of them. After writing this I do intend to be more aware for the future, and when tiny girl is older and decides she loves pink I want it to be her decision and not what the advertisers want her to like. I don't like to think of either of them being brainwashed.
|Children don't just play with toys. They're always busy.|