Wednesday, 3 April 2013
A-Z Challenge - Staying Fabulous and Fit After 50, C is For Confidence
Some people say confidence comes with age and experience but sometimes as we get older we can loose some of that confidence we spent years nurturing. As our body and mind changes we are not always as sure of ourselves as we were when we were young.
We may have retired and are no longer in a position of responsibility.Our children may have flew the nest and we have lost that role within the home. Of course some people are lucky and are just naturally confident and at home in any stuation.
I had to give up my working life because of a deterioration in my health. I became bored at home and needed a focus, so I decide to try a college course. It took a great deal of courage to find the confidence to attend with some much younger girls than me (and men) but as the course progressed I gained the lost confidence in myself that I could still be given a subject to study and see it through to the end.
The course was Swedish massage which included anatomy and physiology. I really needed to find confidence from somewhere when it came to laying hands on a stranger,but I worked through it.
I did a short taster course first then signed up for the year long course,one day a week and I am now qualified in Swedish and Indian Head Massage, I never would have thought I would have done that.
I would urge anyone looking for something to give them confidence to take a short college course on something that interests them.
I then volunteered for a charity that helps mums with young children who are finding things a bit difficult. I had built enough confidence to join their training course and meet more new people. The mum I was paired with had just had a baby, she had mobility problems and her husband worked overseas, she is still my friend nearly four years later although I don't work for the charity now.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
Learn to accept compliments. I have watched many film and TV stars on talk shows when the host is fawning over them about how great they were in their latest film. The way they all handle a compliment is to smile and say,"That is so nice of you to say, thank you very much."
In our younger days we may have received many compliments about how we looked, how nice our hair was, we may even have had a few wolf whistles on passing a building site. If that were to happen now I would think they were having a laugh but I would smile to myself anyway.
Maybe we don't get so many these days, but they're still lovely to receive,accept them gracefully and greatfully.