A few months ago, during what I perceived as a "family crisis" I was speaking to my daughter on the phone and wondering how she was going to handle what I had to tell her. You could have knocked me down with a feather when she said everything was "cool" and there was no problem. She continued, "Mum, your problem is that you "over think" and imagine how everyone will react and make problems bigger than they are."
I was stunned but also relieved that she had taken what I had to tell her so well, but me, over think things, surely not?
So I did what any computer literate person would do I googled "over thinking." What I found was not good. People who suffer from this affliction can be prone to
Over thinkers make simple things complex and easy things hard. It is not good for your health.
No! this is not me, I don't do this. So I had a good think and it brought to mind a text I had from my son a while back, it asked me to look for his rucksack.
I wondered why he wanted it as his partner was due their first baby in a few weeks, surely he wasn't going camping.
I discussed this with my husband and between us we decided he was going camping with his friends and leaving the mother of his future child at home alone. We were outraged at the thought he might do this and wondered what we could say to change his mind.
Me- "why do u want rucksack"
Him - " for Gary"
My son only says exactly what he has to and no more, not even a x at the end of a text which in my book is bad texting etiquette. Yes, his friend was going camping and wanted to borrow it, now why couldn't he have said that in the first place? Crisis averted. Crisis? what crisis? The one in my head ! Is this what my daughter meant by over thinking?
I have came to the conclusion that,"over thinking" is worrying by a different name, and not a good thing to do if you want a healthy lifestyle but that's what all us mums do. It doesn't get much easier as children get older we just worry about different things. I know my mum still worried about me even when I was in my forties, it's a hazard of the job.
What about you? Do you "overthink" things? Are you are worrier? Or are you laidback and calm about everthing? Please tell me I'm not alone.